Who Are You For Your Children?

I have been talking about who YOU are and what do you want for your life.

Today, I want to talk about who you are – for your kids.

I think this is an important aspect of us living our dreams.  Why? Because we are moms.  Because we love our children so much.   Because our kids are a huge part of our lives and who we are.  We want them to grow up happy and fulfilled.  We want them to love their lives and pursue their own dreams.

My son just turned 5.  We’ve made the choice to homeschool our children and his turning 5 has had me start to think a bit more about what we should be doing on the education front.  He is officially “ready” to start kindergarten this year.   So, what does that mean for us?

Immediately, my husband and I started talking about all the things we could sign him up for.  Baseball? Piano?  Hockey? Karate?  Dance?  What would be THE BEST thing for him right now?

And then, watching him play, I realized – none of that.

He is totally happy and content  – just playing. Today he built a train track that goes through every room of the house using every single pillow and cushion that we own.  A whole, fascinating world has taken over our lives with the building of this track.  Stories have been told full of adventure and love and magic  (oh, and bad guys!).

His mind is WIDE OPEN.  He is alive.  He is thriving!

All the other stuff, the classes and the worrying and the feeling like we should be doing more.  That’s all our stuff.  I want him to be creative so I feel like he should start learning music.  Don loves sports, so naturally we should sign him up for baseball or hockey, which by the way, are Don’s favorite sports.

But, what does my son want?  He wants to play!  So that is what I am going to give him.

Who I am for my children is that they get to be whoever they want to be. They get to live their own lives.  They are their own person.

It’s tough sometimes being this for my kids.  I have to remember that it is their life, not mine.  The time will come when my children will want to learn something and request to be enrolled in a class of some sort.  Not because we want them to do it, but because they want to.

Until then, I am working on letting go of all the “should’s”  and listening to where they are at right now.  And honoring that.

So, who are YOU for your children?  What do you wish for them?  And, is there anything you have to let go to let them be who THEY ARE?

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