Creating A Life in Balance

This week, I heard from Gina Osher aka The Twin Coach.  She shared with me her experience creating a visionary board and I thought is was SO GOOD.  So, I thought I would pass along her words so you can benefit from her inspiring discovery.

Here is a guest post from Gina…. enjoy!

My Vision Board: Creating a Life in Balance

Years ago, as I was learning various healing modalities before I opened my private practice, I had a class in which we were given an assignment to create a Vision Board. The idea behind this request was to encourage us to connect to all of the emotions, feelings and hidden desires lurking in our brains and bring them out, front and center. I quickly saw what a fantastic tool this simple idea was for getting clear about where you’re stuck, what you wish for and how you plan to get there.

Every year, like most people, I make a list of New Year’s resolutions. Not surprisingly, I never get very far with them, in part because my brain was the only part of my being that connected to these ideas. This year, inspired by Visionary Mom, I decided to change two things. First, I am making intentions, not resolutions. This simple change of terms completely altered the way I look at what I want to accomplish. Now, instead of feeling stress and guilt, I feel possibility and excitement. Second, I heeded her call to create a Vision Board in order to crystallize these intentions.

The really interesting thing about making this board is that I learned something about myself through each step of the process. As I spread out my choice of magazines from which I intended to pull photos and quotes, I smiled as I noticed the variety of topics that inspire me: parenting, writing, Eastern philosophy, homemaking.  As I cut through these magazines, laying out words and pictures, adding family photos here and there, I notice myself struggling to keep from over thinking things. I walk away, give the board a break, come back to it and rearrange the placement of things, still overthinking.

Then I recall another class I took in which the important aspects of a person’s life were compared to the four legs of a table – when any one aspect is less focused on than another, the table becomes unbalanced. Suddenly I realized that even though I had been thinking so much, I had not even noticed that I had set up 3 categories on my board: my children, my writing, my self. But what about that 4th table leg? Don’t tell my husband, but I had completely left out anything having to do with my marriage!

This is one of the great beauties of creating these boards. Had I not made a physical representation of my intentions and my goals, I might have missed the fact that my marriage had taken such an extreme back seat to everything else in my life. My table was sadly unbalanced and I hadn’t even particularly noticed it before.

My husband had a heart attack last month and I have been so focused on him and his health that it shocked me to have such concrete proof that although I adore my husband, I haven’t made any plans or intentions for how I want our marriage to grow. This part of my life has to be just as important and just as thought through as how I want to raise our children or how I intend to write my book or how I plan to live a happier life this year.

I went back through the magazines, looking at them with a fresh eye and filled in that part of the page where my marriage lives. Love. Desire. 100% Healthy. Grow old along with me. All of this was somewhere in the recesses of my brain, but now here it was for the world to see and it became all the more real. In a way, making a vision board is like telling someone a secret wish you have. Once you have whispered that secret, you are much more likely to follow through. I sit now, with this board, excited about the life I can create.

Gina Osher is a former Holistic Healer turned SAHM to boy/girl twins, a twin parenting coach and the author of the popular blog, The Twin Coach. There she writes on topics ranging from how Halloween candy helped her discover the meaning of life, to how to handle bed rest and premature babies. Gina describes herself and her blog as “one part friend who’s been through it all, one part mom of twins trying to figure it out, one part mentor willing to share”. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.

Day 12 of Creating Intentions

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