Yup, I’m talking about commitment today.
So, what do I mean by this big word, commitment?
The dictionary says of commitment: “the state or an instance of being obliged or emotionally impelled.”
Hmmm.. the state of being emotionally impelled? Yes, that is a great definition. Because being committed is a state of mind. A way of being. It is not just something you say or feel or want. It is something that takes you over and becomes part of who you are. It is a state of being where you are emotionally impelled to act. You must act. It has to happen.
You see, if you are committed, really, no kidding, honestly, with all your heart committed to something, you WILL be called to act. You WILL be obliged to make things happen. You must or some part of you will perish. Some part of you will know that you are not being true to who you really are.
That is how it works with commitment. When it is true, your life aligns with that commitment. It becomes part of who you are.
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.
~ Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
So, what about when the commitment isn’t true?
You know how this one goes, I’m sure. You say you are committed to something, but really it is more of a hope or a wish. It is not something that you are giving yourself fully to. If would nice if it happened, heck it would be awesome! But, are you actually doing anything and everything to make it so, or are you just hoping?
We often say we are committed to things that we really aren’t. Knowing the difference and telling the truth about it is very powerful.
Having hopes and dreams is awesome. It’s inspiring. It’s uplifting. But, unless you get yourself committed to them, more likely than not, they will just stay hopes and dreams. They won’t become reality.
And making your dreams a reality is what this blog is all about.
So, how do you become committed to something?
This, I am not 100% sure about. I think, alot of the time, you either are or you aren’t. That doesn’t help much does it? But, the value in looking at it this way is that if you stop and tell the truth – are you are aren’t you? – then you can have access to really being committed.
You see, if you say you are committed, but when you look into your heart and tell the truth, and what you find there is no, you aren’t. When you tell the truth about that, then there is some space for authentic commitment to show up.
You can’t just declare yourself committed to something. It’s too easy to say you are when you aren’t.
Just because a person is married and they have spoken those vows, does not mean they are committed to being faithful and honest. Just because you you say you are going to write a novel “some day” does not mean you are committed to making it happen.
And, when you commit yourself to something, when you REALLY commit, you will find yourself taking actions to make that thing happen – and happen no matter what. Even if if means staying up late working on, making some sacrifices or doing things that are uncomfortable or scary. That is the nature of commitment. It propels you into action. You can’t help but act.
So, that big dream of yours.. are you committed to it?
Have you made that commitment, deep in your heart to honestly live your dream? If not, tell the truth about it. Stop pretending you are if you aren’t and maybe – just maybe – telling the truth will allow some real, authentic commitment to show up.