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Honoring Your Essence

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Often, we hear about this thing called “Your Truth” or “Your True Nature” ~ what does this mean?

I think alot of us hear that and we assume that there is one true nature that is us and we go seeking that, feeling frustrated if we don’t find it.

Is there a true nature that is YOU?  Yes, I think so.

But, I don’t think it is a given, set in stone kind of thing.

One thing I tend to go on and on about is this idea that you get to create your life.  This implies that you have a say, that there is not a given, already determined life purpose for you.

Who knows about fate and all that?  I don’t.  But what I do know, without question, is that you get to choose how you experience life.

You can choose to suffer and be miserable and complain about how sucky or hard life is.

Conversely, you can choose to love the journey, explore and discover, and fill your heart with love.

In any given moment, you have a choice.

Which brings me back to this true nature thing.  I prefer to call it your essence. That sounds more flowy and fluid.  Something you get to create vs. something that is automatically there.

In any given moment you have the opportunity to honor your essence.  You can choose to experience it, dwell in it, savor it, engage with it. Or, not.

We all have a different essence that makes us – us.  What thrills me and moves me and sparks my creativity will not be the same thing that gets you grooving.

How often do you take the time to experience your own essence?  To honor it, to give it room to breathe and grow and blossom?

When was the last time you just sat and felt your own brilliant vibe?

Is your life an expression of your spark?

Are you living true to your own spirit?

Are you in touch with your own essence?

These are powerful questions to ask.  Likely, your answer will be sometimes.  There are, for sure, times when you are tapped in, connected, expressing who you really are.  Then, there are times when you are going through the motions, and trying to live up to other people’s ideals and ideas about who you are.

The quality of your life is determined by how often you honor your own essence. How often you celebrate it, act from it.  And to the extent that your life is a full on expression of beautiful, lovely YOU!

If your answer to the questions above is not very often.  Don’t freak out!  Don’t beat yourself up and feel sorry for yourself!  That would be just more of the same.

Instead, begin.

Take a moment every day to just be.  To listen ~ to honor what is in your heart.  To what makes you tick, to what fills your life with purpose.

Then, bring that awareness and connection into your life.

Start small and watch those little sparks grow into a full tilt boogie blaze!

What makes your soul sing?

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Do Whatever Inspires the Heck Out of YOU

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I think all this talk about intentions and manifesting and expressing yourself and doing what feels true can start to get quite a bit heavy.

Serious.

And that is not what all this is about.

I am here to inspire, to move you, to call you to push all the crazy self doubt aside and make some movement forward, toward your dreams, toward whatever is it that truly makes you smile.

So, if you created some big, awesome, totally inspiring intention that you totally loved.

And, now you don’t.  Now it is just something that you use to beat yourself up with or compare how amazing you could be, “if only…”

Well, if that’s the case, then bag it.

You’re not stuck with anything here.

This is all created… something for you to use to empower the heck out of you.  And if trying to fulfill on some intention is not doing that for you, then don’t do it!!

I say this because this whole month I have been writing about intentions, but creating intentions is not the point.

Loving your life is.

Embracing it, cherishing it, rockin’ it, having a blast just living.

That’s the point.

Creating intentions is a way to access that.  It is not a thing to do that will once and for all make you happy and fulfilled.

Because they for sure are not going to that.

Living your life full out with all your heart and soul and passion fully out there for all the world to see.  THAT is what will  have you totally loving your life.

Stopping doing all the crazy stuff you are doing to get better and fix whatever it is you think is wrong with you.

THAT will have you freaking fall in love with yourself.  Because there is NOTHING wrong with you!

Taking a moment to quit writing this and just be with my daughter as she takes inventory of all the parts of my face, quietly soothing herself to sleep.

Those moments.

That is what this is all about.

Living and loving your life.  Right here in this moment.

Do whatever inspires the heck out of YOU.  DO whatever has you savor THIS moment.

Celebrate all that is deliciously YOU.

Love all that is your life.

Get there however you get there – makes no difference to me.  But you doing it – really, truly loving your life.

That is what matters.

Day 13 of Creating Intentions

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Creating A Life in Balance

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This week, I heard from Gina Osher aka The Twin Coach.  She shared with me her experience creating a visionary board and I thought is was SO GOOD.  So, I thought I would pass along her words so you can benefit from her inspiring discovery.

Here is a guest post from Gina…. enjoy!

My Vision Board: Creating a Life in Balance

Years ago, as I was learning various healing modalities before I opened my private practice, I had a class in which we were given an assignment to create a Vision Board. The idea behind this request was to encourage us to connect to all of the emotions, feelings and hidden desires lurking in our brains and bring them out, front and center. I quickly saw what a fantastic tool this simple idea was for getting clear about where you’re stuck, what you wish for and how you plan to get there.

Every year, like most people, I make a list of New Year’s resolutions. Not surprisingly, I never get very far with them, in part because my brain was the only part of my being that connected to these ideas. This year, inspired by Visionary Mom, I decided to change two things. First, I am making intentions, not resolutions. This simple change of terms completely altered the way I look at what I want to accomplish. Now, instead of feeling stress and guilt, I feel possibility and excitement. Second, I heeded her call to create a Vision Board in order to crystallize these intentions.

The really interesting thing about making this board is that I learned something about myself through each step of the process. As I spread out my choice of magazines from which I intended to pull photos and quotes, I smiled as I noticed the variety of topics that inspire me: parenting, writing, Eastern philosophy, homemaking.  As I cut through these magazines, laying out words and pictures, adding family photos here and there, I notice myself struggling to keep from over thinking things. I walk away, give the board a break, come back to it and rearrange the placement of things, still over-thinking.

Then I recall another class I took in which the important aspects of a person’s life were compared to the four legs of a table – when any one aspect is less focused on than another, the table becomes unbalanced. Suddenly I realized that even though I had been thinking so much, I had not even noticed that I had set up 3 categories on my board: my children, my writing, my self. But what about that 4th table leg? Don’t tell my husband, but I had completely left out anything having to do with my marriage!

This is one of the great beauties of creating these boards. Had I not made a physical representation of my intentions and my goals, I might have missed the fact that my marriage had taken such an extreme back seat to everything else in my life. My table was sadly unbalanced and I hadn’t even particularly noticed it before.

My husband had a heart attack last month and I have been so focused on him and his health that it shocked me to have such concrete proof that although I adore my husband, I haven’t made any plans or intentions for how I want our marriage to grow. This part of my life has to be just as important and just as thought through as how I want to raise our children or how I intend to write my book or how I plan to live a happier life this year.

I went back through the magazines, looking at them with a fresh eye and filled in that part of the page where my marriage lives. Love. Desire. 100% Healthy. Grow old along with me. All of this was somewhere in the recesses of my brain, but now here it was for the world to see and it became all the more real. In a way, making a vision board is like telling someone a secret wish you have. Once you have whispered that secret, you are much more likely to follow through. I sit now, with this board, excited about the life I can create.

Gina Osher is a former Holistic Healer turned SAHM to boy/girl twins, a twin parenting coach and the author of the popular blog, The Twin Coach. There she writes on topics ranging from how Halloween candy helped her discover the meaning of life, to how to handle bed rest and premature babies. Gina describes herself and her blog as “one part friend who’s been through it all, one part mom of twins trying to figure it out, one part mentor willing to share”. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook.

Day 12 of Creating Intentions

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7 Ways To Make Your Dreams Come True

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I keep saying that you have to dwell in your intention…  that is how to get your intention all over you and your life, which is what will have it make a difference and get you pointed toward your dreams.

But, what exactly does that mean, to dwell?

My friend, the dictionary, defines dwell like this:

  1. live or stay as a permanent resident; reside.
  2. to live or continue in a given condition or state: to dwell in happiness.
  3. to linger over, emphasize, or ponder in thought, speech, or writing.

I don’t think I can say it better. :)

Here are seven things you can do to keep on dwelling, stay engaged and make your dreams come true…

  1. Talk about it. Share how you are doing with it, what is happening, where you ARE fulfilling your intention and where you aren’t.  The more you talk about it, the more engaged you will be.  This works, like really – no kidding, so do it.  Find ways to talk about and share your intention every day.
  2. Think about it. Simple enough, but really important.  Ask yourself often, is my intention present?  What can I do to experience my intention right now?  What would this situation look like if I lived it through my intention.
  3. Have it up in front of you. Create a display or visual reminder that you see every day, that reminds you of your intention and evokes the feelings behind your intention.
  4. Use your technology. Set up reminders on your computer or crackberry.  Schedule them at random times, every few days or once per week.    Have the reminder say something like, “Hey Lisa – How’s that intention going?  Is it present right now?”
  5. Get a buddy. Grab a friend or other person in your life that also has big dreams.  Once you both have created an inspiring intention, set up a weekly chat.  On the chat, share with each other where you fulfilled your intention that week, where you struggled with it and what you want to make happen in the coming week.  This is an amazing way to dwell and stay engaged.
  6. Take on a project. Say you are a photographer – create an intention project where you will take a photo that illustrates your intention every week.  Then share it and talk about it on you blog, or facebook, or wherever you connect with people.  Whatever your dreams in life, you can find a way in incorporate your intention into it and creating a project that is fun and inspiring is a great way to do that.
  7. Get professional help. I love how serious that sounds!!  But, I do mean it.  There are so many amazing classes, e-courses, workshops and coaching programs out there.  If you are serious about fulfilling your intention, sometimes investing in yourself by getting some professional level support is really, really worth it.  (inserting promotional plug – you can check out the various services I offer here. :) )

What ways do you dwell in your intentions?

Day Nine of the Creating Intentions Series

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How to Create a Vision Board

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I think one of the best ways to really dwell in your intention is to have it up in front of you, reminding you what you want to bring into your life.

One of the very best tools that I have ever used – to not only remind me of my intention – but also to “refresh” the feeling I get when I live my intention is to create a vision board.

I’m sure you have heard of people doing this and maybe you have also made a few in your life.  If you have, then you probably know how powerful they can be.

Why do they work?

I’m not totally sure of the woo-woo theories behind this, but, from my own experience, I think they work because they evoke the feelings behind your intentions more than the concept of your intention.

Much like art.

If you were to take a stroll through an art museum, some of the art will really call to you and stir up deep emotions.  If you were to go research the piece, you will probably discover that the artist was deep in those feelings and emotions when he created it.  The energy of the art is filled with whatever the artist was feeling. I know that art I create ALWAYS brings me back to whatever I was feeling at the time.

Vision boards work the same way.  If you create it, fully experiencing and creating your intention, then every time you look at the board, all those feelings come flooding back into you.  You don’t have to try hard to experience those feelings, they just wrap around you, automatically.

The more you dwell in your intentions, the more real they are in your life.

So, if you take the time to create a powerful vision board and you keep it up in front of you, you will have easy access right back into the awesomeness of your intention.

How to create a Vision Board That Has Strength

  1. Schedule some uninterrupted time to yourself to create your board. An hour or so is usually enough time.  Breaking up kid fights, competing with the television and trying to make dinner at the same time won’t allow you to give your vision board the attention it deserves.
  2. Gather up your supplies: a pile of magazines with varied themes, scissors, glue, and whatever size board you want your vision board to be.  You can use poster board, art paper, whatever you like, just don’t have it be super small.  A regular 8 1/2 by 11 sheet of paper is as small as I would go.
  3. Set the scene: grab a cup of tea or a glass of wine, put on some music that makes you feel amazing, light some candles, go outside, whatever.   Create a sacred space that will allow you to make something special happen.  Like a little cocoon.  :)
  4. When you are ready to start, take a moment to focus on your intention. Get connected to it deep in your bones.  You can spend a few moments writing about it, or close your eyes and picture yourself fully living your intention.  Go through your life, put that intention coat on and experience your life with your vision fully expressed.
  5. Then, start going through the magazines. Just tear out pictures or phrases or ANYTHING that grabs your attention.  Don’t use the scissors, just tear.  Work fairly quickly, try not to  analyze it  (is this a good picture for my intention?), don’t start reading articles, and don’t chat with anyone in the room with you, just focus. Be in the intention and tear out everything that you connect with.  It doesn’t have to make sense.   If it calls you, tear it out.    Spend 20 minutes or so doing this.  Almost like you are meditating.. surrender to the process.
  6. Then, stop.  Take a sip of tea and bring yourself back.
  7. Now, you can edit a bit. Spread out the pages you ripped out.  There are hopefully way too many for the size of board you picked out.  Look out over everything you tore out  and gather the ones that really speak to you.  Put the rest aside, you may still use them.
  8. Once you have your strongest images, you can use the scissors to clean them up however you want.
  9. Arrange your images on the board – don’t glue yet, just play with them until you like the way it looks.  You can fill the entire board, or just part of it, whatever gives you pleasure.   This is not an art piece, so it doesn’t have to be just right, but you do want to enjoy looking at it.
  10. Glue everything down.
  11. Find a place to hang up your board that you will see regularly. These work only when you see them all the time!

When you look at your board, it should evoke those feelings you get when you create your intention.  It will remind you on a deep level to keep creating and bringing that intention into your life.

I have vision boards that I created 10 years ago that I’ve saved.  They still remind me, on that deep level, what I was feeling and wanting to manifest at that time in my life.  Whenever I pull them out and look at them, I am always amazed by how strong they still are.  It’s truly fascinating and unbelievably powerful.

Have fun with this!!!  You don’t have to be “artistic” to do this work.  It doesn’t have to be pretty.  Just work through the process here and it will work, I promise.  :)

If you blog about this or share it somewhere, be sure to post a link in the comments so we can share with you what you created.

Day Six of The Creating Intentions Series

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Bring on the Passion

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I have a lot of you asking about how to stay motivated, how to stay inspired.

The simple answer is, you won’t.

Ouch.

But, my friends, it’s true.

Motivation, being inspired, keeping your intention in focus, will come and go.

It will never, ever just be the way that it is all the time.

But, you can create passion or inspiration or whatever you want to call it, anytime.  ANYtime.

She is there, available and willing to bless you with her presence whenever you want her to.   The trick is to create it.

Where we get frustrated is because:

  1. We want to feel inspired all the time.
  2. We just want to feel it without doing anything.
  3. We want her to just show up and inspire us.
  4. We are waiting.  And waiting and waiting.

The thing is – the bus is not going to pull into the station any minute now.  In fact, the inspiration bus NEVER stops, she just keeps moving forward.  So, you have to go running after her!!

Or, more, accurately, you have to create passion and inspiration.

One way to do that is to create powerful intentions that inspire you and then do the work to really dwell in them.

You can also create an intention that is about pulling passion toward you and then simmer in that intention for awhile.

Some examples, “I intend to:

  • create passion.
  • ignite passion.
  • express my enthusiasm.
  • experience inspiration.
  • unlock inspiration.

Those, for sure, would get you thinking about and working on creating passion and inspiration in your life vs.  just waiting around for it.

The other thing is that so many of you are wanting to “find” what it is you are passionate about.  But, that too, is something you have to create.  Waiting around to discover your thing is just going to leave you empty handed.

If you are quiet enough and listen to what is in your heart, you know what it is that brings you immense joy.  You know what makes your heart sing and your spirit soar.  You may not know how to do it or even the specifics of what it will actually look like if you play it out.  But you know. You just have to be willing to hear it.

And, more often than not, the thing that moves your soul, will not be a “thing” like painting or some specific business, it will be an experience. Something you connect with on a deep experiential level that truly makes you happy and fulfilled.

Then, when you know what that is, you can create an intention to bring more of that into your life.  Doing so will lead you down all kinds of amazing paths toward that passion.  The HOW to get there doesn’t really matter, but experiencing it does.    Could be love, kindness, compassion, creativity, courage, stillness, inspiration, passion, boldness, family, etc.

You know what inspires you. If you listen and pay attention, you’ll hear it and then you can create something that has you bring more of that into your life.  That is how to “stay” motivated and inspired.   You create it, which is an ongoing process and something you can do in any moment.

Day 5 of the Creating Intentions Series.

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This Whole Thing is An Act of Creativity

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As we are talking about creating intentions, I think it is important to focus a bit more on the creating aspect of that.

Which, by the way, could be an AMAZING intention to create.  (More about that in a minute.)

So, what do I mean to create an intention?

Well, the dictionary defines creativity as “to bring into existence.”  And that is exactly what I mean.  To bring something into existence into your life.  Something that isn’t really there, or not as fully experienced as you want it to be.

It is NOT about fixing or changing something in your life that is not working!

It is about using your imagination, dreaming, opening your heart and letting in whatever it is that you want for your life.

So, an intention of “being determined” is doubtfully something that your heart is longing for.  If you were to add some more determined energy to your life, that would only be a means to an end.  Sitting around experiencing determination is not what you really want for your life. (I hope)

What you are really after is bigger than that and way more inspiring!

But, we trick ourselves into thinking that is we were just more _________ (fill in the blank) that we could then finally get to all that stuff we want to DO and then we will hopefully start to feel more  __________ (again fill in the blank).

We all have some version of this…

“If I could just get more organized, I will feel more calm.”

“If I could be more focused, I will be so much more successful.”

“If I had more will power, I will feel more healthy.”

NONE of this is an act of creativity.  It is all just fixing stuff that is wrong with us.  Or our lives.

So, to really, truly create an intention, you have to let go of all the junk that is, all the stuff that is not, and every single thing that will never be.

If you looked at this like creating art, to begin, you have to have a blank canvas.    You start with nothing there.  Then, you begin.

Same thing with creating an intention.  You have to stop, bring yourself into the moment, be still, and listen.  Let go of all the stuff you want to fix and change and just be in your life.  What do you want to experience?  What do you want to feel?

And then create from that space of quiet.

What do you want for you life?  What do you want to experience in the coming year?  THAT will be your intention.

And, you could create something about creating as your intention.

Imagine a year of coming from that space of quiet, inventing, imagining, allowing the possibilites of life to be expressed through you?

What kind of amazing things could you make happen if your intention for this year was to be creative?  Or to savor creativity?  Or to embrace the creative spirit?

Just giving you some ideas of what you might want to create as your intention. :)

Are you beginning to see that YOU have the power to experience life any way you want?

Awesome, huh?

Day Four of The Intention Series

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Love as an Intention

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During this month long series, I am going to take the time to talk about some specific intentions that I personally think are extra juicy.   Doing so I hope will also demonstrate the power of creating intentions and how it looks “on the court.”

One thing I know is that if you just create something, write it on a piece of paper and then shove it in the junk drawer, well, nothing much is going to happen.

You have to DWELL in the intention, soak it in, simmer, let it settle deep into your bones (and your heart).

You have to engage with it, think about it and bring in into your day to day life.

So let’s look at LOVE as an intention, because, really, who couldn’t use a little more love?  ;)

Going back to what I talked about yesterday – phrasing your intention in a way that gives you access to experiencing it in the moment – let’s play with the word love.

Some possible ways to create this intention:

  • I intend to experience love.
  • I intend to share love.
  • I intend to ignite love.
  • I intend to be open to love.
  • I intend to celebrate love.

They all have their own unique flavor, or essence, and each of those will give you a difference experience, for sure.

When creating your intention, the sky is the limit.  You can create anything you want to bring into your life.  Even just with the simple word, love.  There are so many possibilities!!

So, let’s say that what you want to create is the intention to experience love.  What might that look like as you go through life?

On a Visionary Mom Team call the other day, one of the moms asked, “so is this kind of like you put on a coat or something and wear your intention?”  My answer was, yes, kind of like that.  So imagine yourself putting on your Experience Love coat. As you put it on, can feel the soft fibers rubbing against your skin?  Do you feel all warm and cozy, letting love into your heart?  Good.

Then, as you walk out the door, into your life, armed with your magical love coat (I may be taking this analogy too far)…  you can engage with the world – pulling toward you experiences of love.

  • You see a homeless woman sitting on the park bench and you feel connected to her in a deeper way.
  • You smile and make eye contact with the grocery store clerk and wonder who he is.  Does he have kids, does he feel loved?  What are his dreams?  You experience a real affinity for him and your smile is that much kinder because of it.
  • You kids are doing something that is driving you crazy and then you remember your intention and you fill your heart with love, letting go the frustration you felt just a moment ago.
  • As you are having dinner with your family, you are listening and paying attention in a new way, every word is a connection, bringing you closer to them, because you are experiencing love.  Right now, in this moment.

The more you dwell in this intention, the more you get to experience love.    Awesome, huh??  :)

And that is how it works with any intention you create.  The more you interact with it, the more you pull in into your life, the more the intention is alive and felt in everything that you do.

So what are you creating?  What is your intention for this year?

Day 3 of the Creating Intentions Series.

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Intentions for 2011

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Happy New Year!

The very best part of bringing in a new year is all the hope, inspiration and excitement that is in the air.  Whether you are a big maker of resolutions or today is the same as any other, it is hard to avoid the pull to create something new as everyone around is ringing in the new year.

Me?  I am not the hugest fan of resolutions.  They seem to be all about changing everything that is WRONG and my view is that trying to change all the bad stuff makes very little difference.  And, in fact, it usually ends up encouraging and welcoming MORE of the bad stuff.

That’s probably why most New Year’s Resolutions don’t stick.  Focusing on changing the bad stuff = more bad stuff.  Usually.

Which brings me to what I DO think is powerful and actually DOES make a difference.

Creating powerful intentions.

What is an intention?

It is a created declaration of what you are intending to bring about.  It is full of possibility and opportunity.  It leaves you (as the indender) empowered to bring into your life something that is 100% created.

So, let’s compare that to a resolution.

If you look up resolution or resolve in the dictionary you see words like reduce, separate, firm, solve, decide, determine, etc.  Them’s fighting words!

Seriously.  I know when I think of resolutions – it makes me tense up immediately.  I know that I am going to have fight and work hard to make stuff happen.

And who wants that?

Imagine that instead of being all resolved to force something to happen – to make big changes, you were creating and bringing into your life something new?

Sounds far more gentle and uplifting doesn’t it?

A big part of creating intentions is letting go and accepting life as it is, right now, in this moment.

Then, from there, you can really, authentically create something.

So instead of “I’m going to loose 30 pounds” your intention could be “loving myself” or “being gentle” or “finding beauty” – whatever would leave you feeling totally empowered and nurtured.  Whatever has your spirit lifted up, embraced and nurtured.

Imagine if you did create the intention of being gentle.  And you brought that into all your weight loss efforts.  Instead of beating yourself up and feeling crummy every time you “broke the rules” you could look at yourself in the mirror and be kind with yourself, love yourself, and give yourself some space.  Then the next time you are faced with the choice of eating that gigantic piece of chocolate cake or walking away, you might actually find yourself content with a few small bites and gently walking away from the rest. No fighting with yourself, just being gentle and accepting the moment.

The more you embrace your intention, bring it into your heart and your day to day actions, the more it can work on you, bringing about the things you dream and wish for.

There is no fighting in that, no forcing something to happen.

And, that is powerful.

So powerful, in fact, that I am going to devote the entire month of January to this whole business of creating intentions.  I am going to dig deeper into possible intentions,  giving you a full experience of the power of doing this kind of work.  I will also talk about how to keep your intentions alive, so they don’t get neglected and forgotten.  And, we’ll celebrate and nurture the intentions that all of you want to embrace for this new year.

Can you hear it?  The wheels spinning, weaving a web of magical possibilities?

I can.  And I am so looking forward to diving deep into this subject, coaching and guiding you along, so you can create whatever you want for 2011.

Whatever you want!

Day One of the Creating Intentions Series.

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When I am An Old Woman, I Will Remember This…

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Here we are with just a few days left in 2010.  This has been a wild ride of a year.  So much has happened in my life since I first started Visionary Mom on January 1.

I can honestly say that 2010 has not been my most favorite year.  The ending of a marriage stings no matter how you look at it. And then there was that dream of traveling full time with my family, which we were supposed to be doing by now.  Yeah, that stings too.

But, in all of that, there has been some amazing things too, like me going back to school to pursue something I have long thought about.  Also this Visionary Mom project, here with all of you is humming along at a really nice pace and I am so IN LOVE the amazing women I have gotten to know!

I am sure that You, too, have good stuff and bad stuff that has happened this year.  The question I have for you, is what are you focusing on?

Are you dwelling on the yucky stuff, wishing it all never happened and feeling pretty much stuck?

Or are you shining light on the growth you have experienced and the love you have felt this year?

Maybe as you get caught up in this time of reflection, you find yourself back and forth between the two?

Where ever you are right now, I think it is vitally important that you complete this year in a way that leaves you empowered, nurtured, appreciated and loved.

So you don’t drag the gunk into this next phase of your life.

I love New Years.  It is such a great chance to stop and reflect, to create, to take in our lives and to start anew.  And, who doesn’t like newness?  :)

So, how do you complete 2010 so you can jump into 2011 with all your passion and enthusiasm turned way up?

  1. First, you have to take stock. What happened?  What was good?  What was bad?  What do you regret? What did you accomplish?  Write it out.  Reflect. Tell the truth about how this year was for you.
  2. Then, ask yourself, what do you want to be acknowledged for this year?  Who did you become?  What did you learn?  Where did you bring your best self and inspire yourself and others?
  3. Who in your life needs some big time appreciation? Take the time to let them know, to share with them just how much they mattered and how they helped make your life better this year.
  4. As for the gunk stuff? Is there anything you can do to clear the waters here?  A person you could call and apologize to?  A project you could just declare is not going to happen?  A project you should start, even if it is just a small baby step that gets it moving ever so slightly?  Look to see if there is some action you can take to resolve those lingering regrets.  Sometimes, all you need to do is let it go.  Set it (and yourself) free.
  5. What do you want to remember about this year? There is all stuff you will remember because, how can you not?  But what do you want to remember?  What do you want this year to be about for you?  This is where you get to be a little creative and make something up.  So let’s talk more about that a little more…

You see, you get to say what this year was about for you.  YOU get to say.  No matter what actually happened.  You get to package that up however you want.  For me, this year has been about trusting myself.  Knowing what I need, not taking any s*&! and listening to my own heart.  It has also been about self discovery, finding the artist inside of me, embracing and celebrating her.

When I am an old woman, sitting in my rocking chair, sharing about my life.  I will tell my great-grand babies that 2010 was the year I became an artist.  That is what I want to remember.  That is the story I am putting down in the history books.  All the other stuff will still be there, but me discovering and celebrating the artist in me is what I am going to cherish.

Take the time over the next few days to create what 2010 was about for you. What do YOU want to remember?  What will you hold sacred?

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