Intentions

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I’m sure each and every person out there reading has had this happen:

You create this awesome and amazing intention for your life, and along with it some clear ideas of how you will incorporate it into your life.  Maybe you create a project or you have a specific area of your life that you plan to start working on.

You are super duper inspired and excited and anything seems possible.  You feel powerful and even maybe a little invincible.

The possibility juices are flowing.

You get going, you live, you dream, you make stuff happen.  And WOW!  Look at you go.  You are amazing yourself with your super powers.

And then.. BOOM!  The magic is gone.

Life is hard.  That great idea you had was probably a bad one, inspiration is a distant memory and you catch yourself climbing out of the shower talking to yourself to the tune of “I suck!”     Only, it’s more of a scream -” I SUCK!” and if you could, you’d subject yourself to a public flogging.

What happened?

You were SO powerful, SO inspired.  And now?  You’re lucky if you can clean up the dinner dishes let alone make your big dream come true.

This is one of the messiest aspects of living an inspired life:  keeping the magic alive.

Because, life happens.

And, we don’t always do what we set out to do.  Which is usually the thief stealing your thunder – not doing what you said.

I hear this alot, “how come I can’t stay inspired?”  “It always disappears.”

I don’t have an exact answer to YOUR particular situation, but I can venture a guess about why you lost your mojo~

You didn’t do something you said you would.

Could be you made a big public declaration of your intentions, or it may be you just promised yourself.

Either way, NOT doing what you said will instantly zap your power.  You may not notice it straight away, but the magic is gone.  And you are now just surviving.  You are probably talking to yourself –  justifying why you didn’t do what you meant to do, which quickly turns into a big loud rendition of your own personal version of “I suck.”

This just happened to me.  I started this intention series so lit up, so inspired, so jazzed by creating something knock your socks off powerful.  I told myself and a few others that I was going to blog every day.  I started the month doing that, and LOVING what I was writing about.

And then, one day, I didn’t feel like it.  And instead of just doing it anyway, I blew it off.  BTW,  I rarely FEEL like writing, but I do it anyway because I have a business to run here and I always get into the mood once I start.  But, this one day, I told myself, “No one will notice.”  And in that moment, I lost my power.

But, I didn’t realize it right away.  Instead, I found other things to occupy my attention and fuel some inspiration.  And then I skipped another day, and another.  And then this morning, as I got out of the shower, I was in full on, super loud “I suck” mode.  And I caught myself.  I’ve been hanging out there in “I suck” mode for well over a week, I’m sure, but only this morning took notice.

Which is always good news to notice, even if it hits like a hard slap in the face.

I’m sure this has happened to you!

So, what to do about it?  I know that in those moments going and crawling in a nice cozy hole sounds like a good idea, except that is not what you really want, is it?

Most of the time, all of us are either thinking forward or thinking backward.

Yes, we try to be in the moment and it’s amazing when that happens (and makes this article irrelevant).  But, since most of the time we are not “in the moment” – it is helpful to notice when you are either thinking forward or thinking backward.

Backward thinking will most always leave you feeling down on yourself, frustrated, and wishing for some other life.  Forward thinking, however, has you creating the future, ingigting magic into your day to day and gives you something to fulfill that inspires the heck out of you.

So, if you notice that your thoughts are full of the lovely “I suck” talk, all there is to do is start some forward thinking.  Ok, so maybe what you just did (or didn’t do)  totally, undoubtedly sucked, so what? You can’t go back and have a do-over.

So, what are you going to do now?  In this moment?

What is something you could do to get out of the funk and get things moving forward again?

Take a small step forward.  Take care of one of those things you said you would do.

Take another small step – reach out and be in communication with someone that will get you pointed in the right direction again.

Take another step forward.  Then another, and another.

Before you know it, you will be having those awesomely powerful thoughts again.

The thing that always gets us is when we are not working on our dreams.

When we are not doing what we planned.  When we blow off those things that we know really and truly matter.  To us.

So, when you find yourself out of whack, talking that bad self talk and questioning all of it, my guess is that you stopped working on your intention, your dream and the amazing stuff that inspires you.  You didn’t do something you set out to do and instead of getting yourself back on track, you’re now telling yourself what a jerk you are.

Well, knock it off!!  We all screw up, blow stuff off and fail to accomplish what we meant to do.    If you are off track, wandering the land of I’m not enough.. wake up – snap out of it and stop wallowing.  Get back in action and make something really inspiring happen!!

Right now.. are you thinking forward or backward?

Day 11 of Creating Intentions

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Since you are mom, I am sure you think about your kids and how they are doing, what you can provide for them, and how you can make their lives better.

All this month, I have been talking about creating intentions for YOU, but what about your kids?

Really, this can be applied to ANY area of you life, but since being a mom is super important to all of us, let’s explore creating intentions specifically focused on us as mothers and who we are for our children.

Hopefully, by now, you have created an intention for your own personal dreams and wishes for the coming year (which I would love to hear what it is you created).  You can, absolutely apply that to who you are as a mom.

From the Intention Wall ~

  • My Intention is to Experience Love
  • or My Intention is to Emanate Peace

Both of those would be make such a difference in any difficult parenting day.

But, if the intention that you created is more for you and what YOU want in the coming year, you might also want to create something for your kiddos and how you want to be as a parent.

Then, you can have both of those guiding you as you live through the day to day moments of making your dreams come true.

The Best Way to Create an Intention for Your Kiddos

  1. Grab a quite moment, just a few minutes is enough.
  2. Immerse yourself in the quiet moment.
  3. Think about your child – if you have more than one little person, you could create individual intentions for each of them, or just one for the pack.  :)
  4. Envision your child(ren) fully expressed, happy, fulfilled, they know they are loved and you are completely connected to them.  Savor that moment.
  5. Then, look to see what is present, what is happening in that moment?  Are they joyful?  Do they know they are loved?  Are the being creative?  Are they celebrating the moment?
  6. What is an intention you could create that captures this moment?
  7. Then, get it up in front of you, dwell in it and experience those magical moments being an awesome mamas lots and lots. :)

This whole business of creating intentions is about growing, learning and discovering who you (and your kiddos) really are.  It is about expressing what is in your heart and living it.  So, don’t forget to include intention creating in your role as a mama.    And if you want a mama intention badge for your blog and the intention wall, I’d be happy to make one for you. Here is mine:

What is Your Mama Intention for the Coming Year?

Day 10 of Creating Intentions

I keep saying that you have to dwell in your intention…  that is how to get your intention all over you and your life, which is what will have it make a difference and get you pointed toward your dreams.

But, what exactly does that mean, to dwell?

My friend, the dictionary, defines dwell like this:

  1. live or stay as a permanent resident; reside.
  2. to live or continue in a given condition or state: to dwell in happiness.
  3. to linger over, emphasize, or ponder in thought, speech, or writing.

I don’t think I can say it better. :)

Here are seven things you can do to keep on dwelling, stay engaged and make your dreams come true…

  1. Talk about it. Share how you are doing with it, what is happening, where you ARE fulfilling your intention and where you aren’t.  The more you talk about it, the more engaged you will be.  This works, like really – no kidding, so do it.  Find ways to talk about and share your intention every day.
  2. Think about it. Simple enough, but really important.  Ask yourself often, is my intention present?  What can I do to experience my intention right now?  What would this situation look like if I lived it through my intention.
  3. Have it up in front of you. Create a display or visual reminder that you see every day, that reminds you of your intention and evokes the feelings behind your intention.
  4. Use your technology. Set up reminders on your computer or crackberry.  Schedule them at random times, every few days or once per week.    Have the reminder say something like, “Hey Lisa – How’s that intention going?  Is it present right now?”
  5. Get a buddy. Grab a friend or other person in your life that also has big dreams.  Once you both have created an inspiring intention, set up a weekly chat.  On the chat, share with each other where you fulfilled your intention that week, where you struggled with it and what you want to make happen in the coming week.  This is an amazing way to dwell and stay engaged.
  6. Take on a project. Say you are a photographer – create an intention project where you will take a photo that illustrates your intention every week.  Then share it and talk about it on you blog, or facebook, or wherever you connect with people.  Whatever your dreams in life, you can find a way in incorporate your intention into it and creating a project that is fun and inspiring is a great way to do that.
  7. Get professional help. I love how serious that sounds!!  But, I do mean it.  There are so many amazing classes, e-courses, workshops and coaching programs out there.  If you are serious about fulfilling your intention, sometimes investing in yourself by getting some professional level support is really, really worth it.  (inserting promotional plug – you can check out the various services I offer here. :) )

What ways do you dwell in your intentions?

Day Nine of the Creating Intentions Series

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This seems to be something we all struggle with.  Enoughness.

It is probably the biggest struggle I hear moms talking about.  You may not say, “I am not enough.” exactly like that.  But, the mood of it, the sentiment is there.

If only you could be more ___________.  Then life will finally work for you.   Then, you will be a better mom.  Then, you could finally pursue your dreams.   In the background is this whole nasty business of not being enough.

  • Not organized enough.
  • Not patient enough.
  • Not focused enough.
  • Not pretty enough.
  • Not skinny enough.
  • Not creative enough.
  • Not daring enough.
  • etc, blah blah blah.

What do you feel not enough of?

Whatever it is.. I have something to tell you.  It’s important.  So, stop what you are doing, pay attention, and listen.

You are enough.

I have zero doubt about this.  You are enough of YOU.  And that is all we want, is for you to be you.  100% with all your heart and passion and exhuberence. You.

You are enough.

If you weren’t, there would be no you.

You are enough.

So, stop trying to be something else.  Something other than who you are.

You are enough.

You are loved and cherished and admired and looked up to by people around you.  They may not tell you as much as you need to hear it, but, trust me, you are enough in their eyes.

Yes, you are enough.

So, it’s okay to stop trying to fix all that is wrong with you.  It’s okay to let go of all that “should” and just let things be exactly as they are.

Exactly as you are.

Because, you are enough.

And, knowing that, you can go create anything for your life.  Anything that inspires you and motivates you and makes you feel amazing.

So long as whatever you create is true to who you are.  Who you really are.  Not the made up “should be” you.  But, the you that loves what you love and that smiles at what makes you happy, and that is moved deep in your soul by whatever inspires you.

So, go!   Play in the land of magical thinking and knock your socks of inspiration.  Go – create and be you.

And know, that you ARE enough.

Day Eight of Creating Intentions

Today, I want to point your attention toward The Intention Wall.  This is a place for all of you to share your intention and support each other in making happen whatever you want for you life.

So far, here are the amazing things that you are all intending for yourself in 2011:

Marcia from The 123 Blo is Living with Courage.

Simone from Sand & Sky Creations is Sharing her Passion.

Ludo is Experiencing Passion.

Karen from Quiddity is Living in the Moment.

Kim from Simply Sakura is Living Deliberately.

Hannah from Hannah’s Harvest is Discovering Joy.

Kelly is Experiencing Love.

And you?  What are YOU intending for this year??

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I think one of the best ways to really dwell in your intention is to have it up in front of you, reminding you what you want to bring into your life.

One of the very best tools that I have ever used – to not only remind me of my intention – but also to “refresh” the feeling I get when I live my intention is to create a vision board.

I’m sure you have heard of people doing this and maybe you have also made a few in your life.  If you have, then you probably know how powerful they can be.

Why do they work?

I’m not totally sure of the woo-woo theories behind this, but, from my own experience, I think they work because they evoke the feelings behind your intentions more than the concept of your intention.

Much like art.

If you were to take a stroll through an art museum, some of the art will really call to you and stir up deep emotions.  If you were to go research the piece, you will probably discover that the artist was deep in those feelings and emotions when he created it.  The energy of the art is filled with whatever the artist was feeling. I know that art I create ALWAYS brings me back to whatever I was feeling at the time.

Vision boards work the same way.  If you create it, fully experiencing and creating your intention, then every time you look at the board, all those feelings come flooding back into you.  You don’t have to try hard to experience those feelings, they just wrap around you, automatically.

The more you dwell in your intentions, the more real they are in your life.

So, if you take the time to create a powerful vision board and you keep it up in front of you, you will have easy access right back into the awesomeness of your intention.

How to create a Vision Board That Has Strength

  1. Schedule some uninterrupted time to yourself to create your board. An hour or so is usually enough time.  Breaking up kid fights, competing with the television and trying to make dinner at the same time won’t allow you to give your vision board the attention it deserves.
  2. Gather up your supplies: a pile of magazines with varied themes, scissors, glue, and whatever size board you want your vision board to be.  You can use poster board, art paper, whatever you like, just don’t have it be super small.  A regular 8 1/2 by 11 sheet of paper is as small as I would go.
  3. Set the scene: grab a cup of tea or a glass of wine, put on some music that makes you feel amazing, light some candles, go outside, whatever.   Create a sacred space that will allow you to make something special happen.  Like a little cocoon.  :)
  4. When you are ready to start, take a moment to focus on your intention. Get connected to it deep in your bones.  You can spend a few moments writing about it, or close your eyes and picture yourself fully living your intention.  Go through your life, put that intention coat on and experience your life with your vision fully expressed.
  5. Then, start going through the magazines. Just tear out pictures or phrases or ANYTHING that grabs your attention.  Don’t use the scissors, just tear.  Work fairly quickly, try not to  analyze it  (is this a good picture for my intention?), don’t start reading articles, and don’t chat with anyone in the room with you, just focus. Be in the intention and tear out everything that you connect with.  It doesn’t have to make sense.   If it calls you, tear it out.    Spend 20 minutes or so doing this.  Almost like you are meditating.. surrender to the process.
  6. Then, stop.  Take a sip of tea and bring yourself back.
  7. Now, you can edit a bit. Spread out the pages you ripped out.  There are hopefully way too many for the size of board you picked out.  Look out over everything you tore out  and gather the ones that really speak to you.  Put the rest aside, you may still use them.
  8. Once you have your strongest images, you can use the scissors to clean them up however you want.
  9. Arrange your images on the board – don’t glue yet, just play with them until you like the way it looks.  You can fill the entire board, or just part of it, whatever gives you pleasure.   This is not an art piece, so it doesn’t have to be just right, but you do want to enjoy looking at it.
  10. Glue everything down.
  11. Find a place to hang up your board that you will see regularly. These work only when you see them all the time!

When you look at your board, it should evoke those feelings you get when you create your intention.  It will remind you on a deep level to keep creating and bringing that intention into your life.

I have vision boards that I created 10 years ago that I’ve saved.  They still remind me, on that deep level, what I was feeling and wanting to manifest at that time in my life.  Whenever I pull them out and look at them, I am always amazed by how strong they still are.  It’s truly fascinating and unbelievably powerful.

Have fun with this!!!  You don’t have to be “artistic” to do this work.  It doesn’t have to be pretty.  Just work through the process here and it will work, I promise.  :)

If you blog about this or share it somewhere, be sure to post a link in the comments so we can share with you what you created.

Day Six of The Creating Intentions Series

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As we are talking about creating intentions, I think it is important to focus a bit more on the creating aspect of that.

Which, by the way, could be an AMAZING intention to create.  (More about that in a minute.)

So, what do I mean to create an intention?

Well, the dictionary defines creativity as “to bring into existence.”  And that is exactly what I mean.  To bring something into existence into your life.  Something that isn’t really there, or not as fully experienced as you want it to be.

It is NOT about fixing or changing something in your life that is not working!

It is about using your imagination, dreaming, opening your heart and letting in whatever it is that you want for your life.

So, an intention of “being determined” is doubtfully something that your heart is longing for.  If you were to add some more determined energy to your life, that would only be a means to an end.  Sitting around experiencing determination is not what you really want for your life. (I hope)

What you are really after is bigger than that and way more inspiring!

But, we trick ourselves into thinking that is we were just more _________ (fill in the blank) that we could then finally get to all that stuff we want to DO and then we will hopefully start to feel more  __________ (again fill in the blank).

We all have some version of this…

“If I could just get more organized, I will feel more calm.”

“If I could be more focused, I will be so much more successful.”

“If I had more will power, I will feel more healthy.”

NONE of this is an act of creativity.  It is all just fixing stuff that is wrong with us.  Or our lives.

So, to really, truly create an intention, you have to let go of all the junk that is, all the stuff that is not, and every single thing that will never be.

If you looked at this like creating art, to begin, you have to have a blank canvas.    You start with nothing there.  Then, you begin.

Same thing with creating an intention.  You have to stop, bring yourself into the moment, be still, and listen.  Let go of all the stuff you want to fix and change and just be in your life.  What do you want to experience?  What do you want to feel?

And then create from that space of quiet.

What do you want for you life?  What do you want to experience in the coming year?  THAT will be your intention.

And, you could create something about creating as your intention.

Imagine a year of coming from that space of quiet, inventing, imagining, allowing the possibilites of life to be expressed through you?

What kind of amazing things could you make happen if your intention for this year was to be creative?  Or to savor creativity?  Or to embrace the creative spirit?

Just giving you some ideas of what you might want to create as your intention. :)

Are you beginning to see that YOU have the power to experience life any way you want?

Awesome, huh?

Day Four of The Intention Series